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Are you someone who owns their sh*t?

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A client came in really rattled and upset that a man had paid her unwanted attention at a party. She was with friends and felt safe and in a celebratory mood. He was the husband of one of her friends and openly flirted and puffed himself up —in front of his wife. “What did I do?’” my client asked me. “I’m someone who owns my sh*t, so I’ve been looking at this trying to see why I called it into my life. Should I not have had a drink? Should I have been firm and told him to back off and risked making his wife upset with me? Is it better if I don’t let my guard down at parties? I feel really...

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Making Peace

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There is a maxim among healers that you can only bring your client as far as you have gone yourself. Since we’re helping people travel a healing path, we have to know some of the terrain already.  To be of real assistance, we have to have done our own inner work and healing so that we can offer a hand at the right moments and point out the roots and stones along the way. The microcosm of a one-on-one session has a macro counterpart in our prayer to heal the world.  We want to be healers, fixers, makers of peace. Many of us see the conflicts and entanglements out there and insist that...

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Waking up together

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Feeling lonely and a little despondent about the state of the world, I got out my drum and asked for some guidance.  One of my beloveds came immediately and sat right in front of me for a chat. She was all smiles and reassurance.  Here are her words, which I share with her permission and love.     There are people who are just waking up now and people who are very sleepy and some who won’t wake up in this lifetime. Some might come around soon or in months or years – who knows?  And some of us who are more awake have these gifts we want to share with the world and it seems...

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Solstice Guidance for Dark Times

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Spirit offered five pieces of guidance during the night and I woke up wanting to write them down and share them with you… In the northern hemisphere, we are about to enter the darkest day of the year: Solstice.  This day brings the opportunity for introspection and the release of what has outlived its usefulness.  We use the darkness to enter silence and holiness, review what has come to pass, and plant the seeds for the coming year.  We look forward to the return of the Sun. It is fitting that final news of the US election has come this week, fast on the heels of the horrors of Aleppo and...

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Why “getting over it” doesn’t work.

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Why “getting over it” doesn’t work.

I’ve seen lots of posts lately, especially on Facebook, about “raising the vibration,” choosing love, letting go of hate and fear…. The list goes on, referencing the election and general state of the world and even things like depression.  These quotes have me thinking that holiday blues or indignation about the election are somehow personal failings.   They are very well-intentioned, spiritual-sounding posts from excellent people, many of whom I admire and am happy to call my friends and colleagues… Yet. I’ve seen complex PTSD in many forms over the years and it’s called complex for a...

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Words from the Benevolents, post-election

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Words from the Benevolents, post-election

How are you doing? I hope you’re okay.  I know it’s been stressful for most of us – please hang in there with me. I’ve felt like Alice all week, through the looking glass into another universe (and not in the shamanic way that I like). I’ve felt big, small, scared, powerful, drugged, lost, and homesick. I’ve cried a lot.  I’ve watched myself have knee-jerk reactions and spoil for fights, desperate to be heard and understood in the middle of chaos. I’ve witnessed some ugliness. I’ve been really worried for everyone: truly, everyone. I’m worried for LGBTQ, minority, and immigrant...

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